What to Expect
Let's face it, the idea of going to counselling can be anxiety-provoking, intimidating, or just plain uncomfortable for some people. It takes courage to pick up the phone and ask for help, so as I see it, my job is to try to make the process as comfortable and transparent as possible.
What I aim to do in our work:
- Help you to find balance and listen to your desires & needs
- Support you through loss & change
- Get you back in touch with what matters to you
- Encourage you to evaluate your situation from different perspectives by sharing my observations
- Share practical tools or resources
- Gently challenge you to take responsibility for your role in any problems you are facing
- Guide you to become more self-forgiving & embrace your imperfections
- Collaboratively brainstorm possible next steps
What I aim to NOT do in our work:
- Tell you exactly what you should do to solve the problem
- Claim that I have all of the answers
- Claim to understand your life better than you do
- Encourage ongoing blaming others for the issue
- Encourage an exaggerated/unhelpful victim mentality
Ruth made the whole experience comfortable which was important to me because I was very nervous. She created an atmosphere that was calm and unassuming, allowing me to feel comfortable with opening up to her and talking about some major issues in my life.
Ruth really understood me. She treated me as an equal, I felt like I could trust her with anything, but most importantly she never freaked me out or made me feel like my concerns were baseless. I felt like what I was going through was justified, and real, but that they were things that could be helped with some work.
There was a time where I was getting through the week only because I knew I could go to counselling on Mondays. That mental place seems so unfamiliar to me now.
Ruth posed questions that I had never thought about before and gave me the tools to recognize my feelings and emotions and how to deal with them in a healthy way.
It's hard to put what Ruth did for me into words. She adjusted the therapy to fit my individual personality, and was able to help me through my PTSD. By overcoming the effects of trauma, I was able to move onto the next stage of my life.
I went to see Ruth to help me with the anxiety I had after being in a car accident. The anxiety was affecting all aspects of my life. She was very understanding, trustworthy and a great listener. Also I found her to be very knowledgeable and professional. She showed me techniques and skills to deal with my anxiety... I am very happy and grateful for the results I obtained from the counselling sessions I had with her and I really recommend her.
My partner and I did a series of sessions with Ruth for pre-marital counselling simply to get some guidance and direction and to bring to light various areas of our relationship that perhaps we had not yet had deeper conversations about. We found it both reaffirming for us (that we have a solid foundation to take the next step in our relationship) as well as supportive (it gave us exercises and opportunities to discuss the areas less addressed). Ruth was an excellent facilitator! She made me, as a male, feel very comfortable and I personally believe that every couple could benefit by doing some form of counselling as speaking one's truth, taking personal responsibility, and actively / openly listening to my partner are pillars for both of us in our relationship.