As the leaves begin to fall and the chill sets into the air, I am reminded that another summer wedding season has drawn to a close. In the spirit of celebrating committed relationships, I enlisted the help of anonymous participants (ages 25-40) to complete a survey on marriage and commitment. On today’s blog, I share 7 Truths about Commitment, inspired by their responses as well as my experiences with clients. A big thank you to all who contributed.
1. Commitment means more than saying ‘I do’
Weddings are an excellent opportunity for couples to celebrate their love and also vocalize their intentions in front of friends and family – who they want to be as a partner as well as what they cherish in the other.
It’s been said over and over, but I’ll repeat it here, that a wedding is a day and a marriage is a lifetime. Practically, I believe this to mean that true commitment has to be demonstrated on an ongoing basis, and not just when things are going well. This may be small gestures like thanking your partner, showing appreciation, and apologizing first, or it could be more significant moments such as buying a home together, supporting your partner through a difficult time, and making efforts to integrate into each other’s families.