You may have heard your friends talk about it at a dinner party. Or you may have seen it written in a relationship column somewhere. Love Languages – what’s it all about?
This concept comes from the influential work of Dr. Gary Chapman and his book, The 5 Love Languages, which has become a staple in the world of couples counselling (and has since been extended to other relationships as well). According to Dr. Chapman, one of the main issues between couples stems from our tendency to speak different ‘Love Languages’ than our partner.
The 5 Love Languages
Let me explain. According to this theory, there are five Love Languages, or ways that we communicate love. Most of us have one or two that for us, best indicate a gesture of love. These include: acts of service, quality time, receiving gifts, words of affirmation, and physical touch, and although they are distinct categories, how they are defined are quite personal. To give you a better understand of how they are different, below are some examples: